One thing in life is certain – change. Just think about how things were five years ago and you will realize that there is so much that has already changed in such a short span of time.
When change comes we have several options, some of which are more adaptive than others. Let’s take a look at them.
The first option is to refuse to change or adapt to any new circumstances. People who refuse to change are the people who are actually afraid of change. When change requires new learning, as it often does, some people don’t think they will be able to master the new skills so they simply renounce the changes rather than adapting them. The problem is that these are the people who are left in the dust.
The second possibility is the slow starter. These people usually start out in one of the two mentioned roles – either refusing to change or anxiously running around trying to figure out what to do about it. They do not like to change any more and they resist changes in their lives and one day they realize that the change may actually bring benefits. Once they see that there is a payoff for them, they fairly easily do the necessary things to adapt to the change.
A third possibility is what we see in the over anxious people in our midst. You know who they are. They are the ones who are always making mountains out of molehills and have a nervous energy about them whenever confronted with a novel situation. They imagine all the possible scenarios about what could occur and seem to just go around in circles. They don’t adapt to the change; they just worry themselves sick over it.
The final and most rewarding possibility are the people who understand that change is a part of everything. When we stop evolving, we start eroding. These people welcome change, in fact, they frequently generate it. They realize that change is what makes things happen. Change propels us forward. These people are quick to make the necessary adaptations and suffer the least from the inevitable.
Which character are you? Who would you like to be? What would you have to give up to be the character you really want to be? Would you like to make a plan right now to implement these changes into your life? It will require a commitment and a good plan.
This is where a coach can be helpful. A coach is someone who can keep you on track and pointed in the direction of your goals. A coach will support your progress and hold you accountable for the goals you set. When you identify an area in your life that requires some attention and you commit to make the necessary adjustments, you head in the right direction of achieving your goal.